There is No Excuse for Cheating in Relationship

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Nothing will right the wrong of your partner cheating on you.

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“I need emotional validation my partner doesn’t give me”

“I don’t love her anymore”

“I am bored with my relationship”

“I fall in love with someone new”

“I get emotional satisfaction from someone else”

“I’m curious, I want to try new experiences”

Maybe those are common excuses people make when they are cheating.

But then again, there is no excuse for cheating in a relationship.

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If you find yourself in a relationship that doesn’t fulfill your needs whether emotional or sexual, you have few options:

1.     Try to fix the situation by communicating or negotiating

2.     Accept the way things are. If you don’t want to end it, fix your own perfection or lower your expectations

3.     or just leave.

 

“The ugly truth is, if you cheat on someone you’re dating, you do not love that person. Don’t care if “we are all human, so we make mistakes”.

Cheating is not a mistake you make when you really love someone.

If you are unfaithful, you are not in love. Simple as that.

 

If there’s once, there will be twice, three times, and so on.

Cheating means breaking the rules of your relationship. It means that you find yourself in a bad situation and rather than dealing with it in a healthy and productive way, you choose to do something that directly harms your partner to make yourself feel better.

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There are so many cases of cheating.

In one case, there is someone whose track record in past relationships was a cheater, and yes.. they still are.

And in another case, one who broke up with his ex because he was cheating on someone he’s dating then he’s cheating on right now.

It’s more like a character, like a template you knew in the first place. Don’t be denial.

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A relationship should always have a second chance. The exception is cheating. Never take someone back who cheats. Because when a cheater says “I won’t cheat on you again.” That sounds more like “I slipped, but next time you won’t catch me.”

It’s not about being negative thinking when you’re trying to forgive and rebuild your relationship.

Sorry in advance for being harsh in the next statement, but…

There is a fine line between being kind and plain stupid.

so…

What you need to understand is.. if you cannot sacrifice the touch of another person; if you cannot resist the physical urge to screw someone else in favor of honoring your relationship, you do not value your relationship enough.

 

Michelle Obama said “there is nothing that threatens the security of a wife than the thought of another woman competing the attention and affection of her husband. Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading.”

 

You cannot cheat on someone you love. It’s impossible.

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